Article:Your husband doesn’t have to earn your respect

In four days, 10,000 + shares on Facebook.  1,400 comments and counting.  No wonder.  This article expressed so many convicting truths so well, I wanted to quote even more for future reference:


"Men are notoriously reluctant to share feelings or display vulnerability. Many times, we keep those inner thoughts locked away — our feelings guarded and hidden — because we know we are not respected. A man will never be vulnerable to someone who doesn’t respect him. Never.

"A man isn’t satisfied or content if he isn’t respected. If he can’t find respect where he is, he will seek it somewhere else. This can have disastrous implications for a relationship, but it applies in other areas of life as well. A man is much more likely to stay in a low paying job, a physically demanding job, a dangerous job, or a tedious job, than a job where he isn’t respected.

"I’m only emphasizing this because I think it might actually be news to some people. Society does not permit men to be vocal about their need for respect, so the need is often ignored."


 "Ah, yes, the old “husband is punished by his wife and sent to the couch” meme. I’m not sure if this actually happens in real life, or if it’s an invention of 90′s “all men are fat, witless, oafs” sitcoms, but the popularity of the stereotype is telling. Is this how we see husbands now? A man gets “in trouble” with his wife, she scolds him and puts him in time-out on the couch. Now he has to placate his alpha-bride by showering her with flowers and jewelry."

"Society tells our daughters that men are boorish dolts who need to be herded like goats and lectured like school boys. Then they grow up and enter into marriage wholly unprepared and unwilling to accept the Biblical notion that “wives should submit to their husbands” because “the husband is the head of the wife.” [Ephesians 5]"


"The respect deficiency in our culture has reached crisis levels...

"I’ve discussed at length how men should treat women. I’ve written about the lessons I plan to teach my son; lessons about how he should love, honor, respect, serve, and protect the women in his life. Indeed, men need to respect women, and we, as men, are far from perfect in that regard...

"Those posts — the ones where I call on us men to improve the way we treat women — tend to be very popular. They’re popular when I write them or when anyone writes them...

"But I’ve noticed that the corollary – a message about the respect women must give men, a message challenging wives and encouraging husbands – isn’t quite so palatable for many people...

 "Disrespect for men has become standard practice."

"Your husband might “deserve” it when you mock him, berate him, belittle him, and nag him, but you don’t marry someone in order to give them what they deserve. In marriage, you give them what you’ve promised them, even when they aren’t holding up their end of the bargain."

Martha Stewart's Meatloaf-optional-GF or GAPS

Martha Stewart's Meatloaf 101 {altered -Gluten Free or GAPS diet, original below}

Serves 8 to 10



4 slices white bread, torn into pieces - 1/2 c. gf crumbs or cooked cornmeal

1 3/4 pounds ground beef

3/4 pound ground pork {used turkey}

1 medium yellow onion, peeled and cut into eighths

2 cloves garlic

2 stalks celery, cut into 2-inch pieces

2 carrots, peeled and cut into 2-inch pieces

1/2 cup fresh flat-leaf parsley{used thyme}

1 large egg

1 tablespoon coarse salta

2 teaspoons freshly ground pepper

2 tablespoons packed light-brown sugar {used maple syrup/honey/molasses}

3/4 cup ketchup, divided, 1/2 and 1/4 c. for topping


4 teaspoons dry mustard, divided in half

Preheat oven to 400 degrees

Mix optional cornmeal/crumbs and ground meats.

Pulse onion, garlic, celery, carrots, and parsley in food processor until finely chopped.

Add to beef mixture; combine using your hands. Mix in egg, 1/2 cup ketchup, 2 teaspoons dry mustard, salt, and pepper. Place in an 8 1/2-by-4 1/2-by-2 1/2-inch loaf pan.


In a small bowl, combine the remaining 1/4 cup ketchup and 2 teaspoons dry mustard, and the brown sugar; stir until smooth.


Brush mixture over top of the meatloaf. Place the pan on a baking sheet to catch drippings.


Bake until a meat thermometer inserted in the center reaches 160 degrees, about 1 1/2 hours. (If the top of the meatloaf starts getting brown, cover with foil and continue baking.) Let meatloaf stand 15 minutes before slicing.

All-American Meatloaf

The only thing better than a hearty meatloaf dinner is the sandwich you can make with the leftovers.

Servings:

6

Ingredients

Ingredient Checklist

• 3 slices white bread
• 1 large carrot, cut into 1/4-inch-thick rounds
• 1 celery, strings peeled, cut into 1/2-inch pieces
• 1/2 medium yellow onion, roughly chopped
• 2 cloves garlic, smashed and peeled
• 1/2 cup fresh flat-leaf parsley, leaves, loosely packed
• 1/2 cup plus 3 tablespoons ketchup
• 4 1/2 teaspoons dry mustard
• 8 ounces ground pork
• 8 ounces ground veal
• 8 ounces ground round
• 2 large eggs, beaten
• 2 teaspoons salt
• 1 teaspoon freshly ground pepper
• 1 teaspoon Tabasco Sauce, or to taste
• 1/2 teaspoon chopped fresh rosemary, plus more needles for sprinkling
• 2 tablespoons dark-brown sugar
• 1 tablespoon olive oil
• 1 small red onion, cut into 1/4 inch-thick rings

Directions

Instructions Checklist

• Step 1

  Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Remove crusts from bread, and place slices in the bowl of a food processor. Process until fine crumbs form, about 10 seconds. Transfer breadcrumbs to a large mixing bowl. Do not substitute dried breadcrumbs in this step, as they will make your meatloaf rubbery.

• Step 2

  Place carrot, celery, yellow onion, garlic, and parsley in the bowl of the food processor. Process until vegetables have been minced, about 30 seconds, stopping to scrape down the sides of the bowl once or twice. (Chopping vegetables this way saves time and ensures that vegetables will be small enough to cook through and not be crunchy). Transfer vegetables to bowl with the breadcrumbs.

• Step 3

  Add 1/2 cup ketchup, 2 teaspoons dry mustard, pork, veal, beef, eggs, salt, pepper, Tabasco, and rosemary. Using your hands, knead the ingredients until thoroughly combined, about 1 minute. The texture should be wet, but tight enough to hold a free-form shape.

• Step 4

  Set a wire baking rack into an 11-by-17-inch baking pan. Cut a 5-by-11-inch piece of parchment paper, and place over center of rack to prevent meat loaf from falling through. Using your hands, form an elongated loaf covering the parchment.

• Step 5

  Place the remaining 3 tablespoons ketchup, remaining 2 1/2 teaspoons mustard, and brown sugar in a bowl. Mix until smooth. Using a pastry brush, generously brush the glaze over loaf. Place oil in a medium saucepan set over high heat. When oil is smoking, add red onion. Cook, stirring occasionally, until onion is soft and golden in places. Add 3 tablespoons water, and cook, stirring, until most of the water has evaporated. Transfer onion to a bowl to cool slightly, then sprinkle onion over the meatloaf.

• Step 6

  Bake 30 minutes, then sprinkle rosemary needles on top. Continue baking loaf until an instant-read thermometer inserted into the center of the loaf registers 160 degrees. about 25 minutes more. Let meatloaf cool on rack, 15 minutes.

Cook's Notes

Be careful not to overknead the meatloaf ingredients; doing so will result in a heavy and dense loaf.

All-American Meatloaf Recipe | Martha Stewart

Fruit Punch

2 liters Ginger Ale,
33 oz. Berry Sherbert (some  kind of berry)
1 can frozen orange juice concentrate, and the instructed water to add.
33 oz. pineapple juice
Apricot nectar (I try to find the non-corn syrup kind :P)

Rule of Law According to Husband

Libertarianism in a nutshell: The law ≠ right and wrong. It = the legitimate use of force to stem illegitimate uses of force.

Just because something is immoral does not mean it should be illegal.
Just because something is legal does not mean it is moral.
If the law does what an individual could not rightly and justly do, it is no law at all.

Creamy Winter Veggie Soup

Posting this for a friend:

Because of what I had on hand, I altered Rachael Ray's recipe on Food Network by:

adding more stock, a spicy kind
using buttermilk and sour cream as well as milk
Added an extra carrot
No parsnips, squash, potato, fennel or herbs other than bay

 

  Various housecleaning tips:

Dust on open window days.

    Keep a TOWEL/squeegee near the shower and remove water from the glass doors after each shower or bath. When the surface is kept dry, hard water residue and mildew have less chance to develop.
 

Kitchen - Avoid missing lid syndrome for your storage containers by stacking lids in a shoebox within the cupboard.